There was one factor that stunned me within the time after shedding Amy: Discovering out that pleasure and sorrow can coexist.
I nonetheless bear in mind the day I first found that. My son and his household had invited me over for dinner (as a result of, you recognize, they’re actually cool folks). After I drove as much as their residence, I was overcome with sorrow—lacking Amy, wishing she was there with me, figuring out she would’ve love a night together with her household. I burst into tears behind the steering wheel, a lot so that I needed to wait a couple of minutes to let the storm go. Lastly, I dried my eyes, pulled myself collectively, and went inside.
Whereas we had been ready for dinner, I sat all the way down to play Jenga with my pleasant granddaughter. Her eyes are emerald inexperienced—and precisely like her grandmother’s. I bear in mind trying in her eyes, seeing Amy in them, and having a tough time not crying once more. Then, immediately, the Jenga tower fell, and delighted laughter spilled out from my granddaughter’s mouth.
And I felt such pleasure.
Simply listening to that baby chuckle made me so comfortable, and but I used to be additionally nonetheless feeling deep sorrow over Amy’s dying. All within the similar second.
Huh, I assumed. That’s surprising.
The following day, I turned to Scripture to attempt to know what had occurred. I discovered this:
On the night time earlier than his crucifixion, Jesus mentioned to his disciples, “I’ve informed you this in order that my pleasure could also be in you” (John 15:11, NIV, italics mine). About an hour or so later, within the Backyard at Gethsemane, Jesus mentioned, “My soul is crushed with grief to the purpose of dying” (Matthew 26:38, NLT, italics mine).
Pleasure and sorrow, on the identical night time, inside minutes of one another—absolutely current within the Son of God. That is, I found, why he will be each a “Man of sorrows” (Isaiah 53:3) and the fruit of his Spirit’s presence is “pleasure” (Galatians 5:22). And since it’s true of him, it may also be true for me. And for you.
So, no, you’ll by no means recover from shedding your treasured, distinctive, irreplaceable spouse. However you may nonetheless expertise pleasure within the midst of sorrow. You may nonetheless chuckle together with your youngsters, get pleasure from a film night time with your pals, rejoice Christmas and Easter and each vacation in between as a result of it actually is true:
Pleasure and sorrow can coexist for those who allow them to; you will notice proof of that in your personal soul.
All proper, I believe that’s sufficient for now. Keep in mind, you might be greater than you suppose you might be at the moment, and tomorrow, for those who pay attention, you’ll hear God whispering to you the similar phrases he gave to the Apostle Paul (and to me):
“My grace is enough for you.” (2 Corinthians 12:9, NIV)
With like to you, my buddy,
Mikey
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